Single Brit shaken after Bumble match tracked her down on Linkedin using work email

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Samantha Haynes

By Samantha Haynes

Published: 10/01/2022

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A woman, who lives in the UK, has accused a man of being 'creepy' for contacting her on multiple platforms after matching on a dating app.

A woman has has shared how a stranger on the dating app Bumble emailed her at work using contact information on LinkedIn.

The singleton posted on Mumsnet that the man had used only her first name and second initial to look her up on the professional networking platform, adding that his LinkedIn request made her uncomfortable.

The woman, who lives in the UK, revealed that she and the man had exchanged a few messages after matching on Bumble.

Some Mumsnet users accused him of harassment, advising the woman to contact his HR department.

Although other comments on the website said that, after the woman had blocked him on the dating app, the man was entitled to message her on LinkedIn.

The singleton wrote: 'I matched with someone online last week on Bumble. I don’t use my name on my profile but only my initials.

'We had a few pleasant messages and he asked my name and I told him my first name only. I then receive a LinkedIn request, which weirded me out. I don’t message him for a day and then he messaged to ask if I started to ignore him.'

'I said no, busy with family. I then messaged him a few days later to say I was uncomfortable he sent me a LinkedIn request based on so little info.

'Anyway, he’s just messaged me at work saying “thanks for the low behavior wish you the same”. It’s from his work email.

'I know there isn’t anything I can do except be vigilant and not give out my name in future, but just wanted to share my experience.'

Mumsnet users responded to the post, with some advising the woman to report the man.

One user commented: 'It's awful, he already has a totally legit way of talking to you on the dating app. You are still talking so the only reason to go off-site is to prove some sort of power or control.

'He wasn't trying LinkedIn because your jobs are similar and for professional reasons. He wants you to know he can find out more info about you, send you emails at work.

'Turn up and who knows. He's overstepping the mark big time. If you did want him to know this information you would in time.'

Another person said: 'Contact his HR and contact Bumble. This is a huge privacy concern. Anymore emails off him, please ask your work to change your email address. He doesn't sound right at all.'

The woman's posts however divided opinion with users on the site as some people defended the man, with one person writing: 'Am I missing something here? You met someone on a dating app and messaged a few times. You gave him your first name.

'He then sends a LinkedIn request which you ignore. He messages you asking if you're ignoring him, you reply "no" and message him again several days later to tell him you didn't like the LinkedIn request. He sends you bit of a snotty email.

'How is this harassment? You've received a LinkedIn request, 1 message and 1 email. Don't contact is employer just because he sent an email to you from his work email. That's weird!'

The woman announced that the experience has taught her to think twice before giving her name out in the future.

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